Okay, my boyfiend is a dance instructor and I love him. However, all my friends tell me I should be jealous and careful. He dances with many women during the day and it's easy for him to cheat.....What should I do? Can anyone offer advice or share experiences???? I trust him.....but they state that he is placed in a situation were students can fall for their instructor....

A man who wants to cheat will find a way to, regardless of where he works.

A man who doesn't want to cheat will not cheat, even if he works in a strip joint.

Talk to your boyfriend about this. Most dance instructors know that students often develop crushes on their teachers and most consider it an occupational hazard, not something they particularly enjoy having to handle.

"Friends" who say such things are troublemakers. It all comes down to the kind of person your boyfriend is--and if he is the kind of person who would take advantage of a teacher-student relationship for his jollies, you don't want him anyway.

Alice:

My boyfriend is also a dance instructor and has been for many years. I know how hard it can be.

You have to have faith in him and trust him. I know it's easier said than done, but that's the case with any relationship.

Remember, this is his job. In my case, it also happens to be my boyfriend's passion. I've never doubted him. I trust him completely because I know he is a professional. People have asked, "Doesn't it kill you to see him with other women?" Sure, it's hard sometimes. But, all he's doing is sharing his passion for dance with others (and making a living to support his family).

Have you tried taking lessons and sharing his passion? I think that's helped our relationship. Don't get me wrong, taking lessons from your significant other is a HUGE challenge, but it's so worth it. I love dancing with him and I understand why he does what he does.

If he's never given your reason to doubt him, then you shouldn't. If he's a man of principle, then he would never "date" a student or be untrue to you.

Good luck to you! And, go dance with him!!

The fact he is a dance instructor does not increase his chance of cheating. Most studios stress not getting involved with students, since it is a bad busines practise. Instructors violating this directives by the studio, would be placing their job at risk. Unlike most professions were people have a lot of contact with members of the opposite sexs.

Jealousy is the art of injuring ourselves more than others.

Alexandre Dumas (1802 - 1870)

There are lots of well meaning dancers giving you their two cents here which is nice. The fact is most dance instructors and others at the studios I have been at have had multiple marriages. This is also a reflection of the society trend. Good luck

I am a male dance instructor. It's true, I dance with women all day long. Some of them hotter then my girlfriend. Simple truth is though, I love her, so I don't get tempted.

Yes,,, always be on guard. Men are stupid, and women who come to dance usually are looking for attention which can turn quickly. He should NEVER give any student his cell number or personal email. All comms go through the studio. When he travels for comps....unless you go too...who knows what goes on. Dancers in ballroom are a tad loose with sex.....enjoy the hell.